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Choosing a Stone
How do we know which crystal or gemstone will assist us or our loved ones in this growth process. There are written and told of many ways. The most comfortable way I have observed for myself and others is ‘if you like it, buy it’. You will not be attracted to a stone that will not be beneficial to you or those you are choosing for. You say ‘but I like most or all of them’. Usually the stone that you first see is one that will be good for you in some way. You may wish to hold the stone for a while in each hand to see how it feels – be relaxed and observe any feelings or changes in your body or mind. Put the stone down and see if there is a sense of something missing. If so you know what to do – buy it. Say you were attracted to something beyond your financial means – take note of the stone and look for something that is affordable in that stone – it is the vibration of that particular stone that will benefit you.
You may wish to read the meanings that go with the stone and choose the one that fills the need you feel you have at this moment. That is ok too – we have been given the choice of ‘free-will’ or ‘guidance’ – ‘free-will’ is I want and ‘guidance’ is this is what you need. Both are beneficial at different times. Another way is to hold your hand a few centimetres above the stones and moving your hand slowly over the stones to feel for the energy that is compatible for you. Some feel for the stronger sensation – my way of thinking is that not necessarily always is the stronger feeling the better. I notice people react very well to something that is soft and caressing, not many of us like being told what to do. When you look at a set-out of crystals and gemstones you will notice that at least one of them will be brighter or draw your attention more than the others. Take this one home.
A beautiful thing sometimes happens and that is someone buys a stone that they feel attracted to, takes it home and wonders why they purchased it. A period of time later they get the urge to give it away to someone who will benefit from it. Please do not question the feelings of being drawn to a certain stone, accept and have faith that your choice is the best one for you or someone else.
A recommendation I make to some people that have trouble choosing is to look over the whole table at some length then go for a walk and see if one or more keep coming to mind, these are the ones you take home. If none do you may have received the energies that you need at this moment just by looking at them bringing the energies into you on a soul level or by touch. You sometimes do not need to purchase a stone you only need to experience the exchange of energies. How many of you have had a flat battery in your car and needed a jump start to get going again – consider yourself jump started by touching or looking at a certain stone. That is one of the great things about crystal and gemstone shops/stalls – you can receive help just by playing with the stones that may be out of your financial reach. We are there to assist in everyone’s growth by having the stones available for you to experience in whatever way is beneficial to you. You may touch a stone and never need to touch it again because you have received what you need to keep going.
Another aspect of this is that you may need to leave something of you (an experience) on a particular stone so that someone else can receive what you have had on an energy level. That energy will assist them in gaining empathy into a situation that they may never have to experience because you have and therefore helped them on their path. For those that worry about the negative’s being passed on please read on I cover that it in ‘others touching your stones’. Sometimes we all need a little help for various reasons do not hesitate to ask the person behind the crystals for some help in either which do they feel will be a beneficial one or what one will help me with …?
You will hear people say that the stone chooses you. As the stones magnify and amplify energies they will recognise an energy that is compatible to it and therefore able to assist. That is the one you will be attracted to. Trust yourself, your instinct or intuition it will not let you down. Really it boils down to ‘if it feels right go for it’. Look at the stone, feel the stone and think about the feelings you are getting holding it. Are they pleasant feelings or not so pleasant.
If the feelings you are getting are not pleasant, put the stone down take three breathes and ask your guidance to take away anything that is not beneficial to you or the stone. Relax and pick up the stone again, if the feelings return take three deep breathes to open up to a new energy because sometimes we react with a barrier when something different and unknown comes upon us. If you are a person that is not comfortable with change then a new energy coming into the body can send alarm signals to the brain so pain or discomfort occurs. When we take 3 deep breathes we open up our energy field to accept the newness of the energy. Do not ‘fear’ that you will pick up on other people’s negativity because you can attract what you dwell on be it pleasant or fearful. Be open to the experience of life which sometimes can be a little disconcerting in that it does not always go the way we want it to.
If there is still a level of discomfort with the stone bless it, thank it, place it back on the table, take three deep breathes and walk away. Another way you can deal with this is to pick up a piece of Rose Quartz hold it for a few minutes place it back when feel calmer or the pain is gone, thank it and walk away. One thing I would ask of you - please when you place the stone back on the table KNOW that anything that is not beneficial to the stone or whoever is going to touch is released into the Earth with love.
Remember a crystal or stone that is chipped can be a powerful healer due to the empathy within it. At times we all need the beautiful perfectly shaped stones because we do not want to be reminded of our imperfections and we may feel a little fragile in some way. By all means choose a crystal for it beauty but please remember the not so perfect as these will help you accept you as you are - imperfections and all. See the section on Empathy Crystals.
There are so many ways to choose, above all have no fear you will choose the one that is best for you at this time. When choosing for others use the same principle as for Christmas/Birthday presents – you are choosing a gift for someone and thereby giving them the gift of well-being, health and happiness.
If it feels right and it does not hurt you or anyone else - go for it! |
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Others touching your Stones
This is a subject that many people differ on. It is my belief that you will not be drawn to touch a stone if there is not something you or the stone needs from the contact. As this is a very personal issue I believe we should respect others space by asking the person with the stone if we can please touch it.
Each time we touch something we leave a part of us on an energy level behind. Some of us believe that we will pick up on negative energy. We come from a fear based past. Let that go. You will not be drawn to touch a stone unless there is something it has to offer you or you to offer it. We are constantly learning about two way communication and this is one way to assist in that endeavour. We are all one therefore sharing energies keeps us connected and caring of each other.
An important thing is that we get the KNOWING that when released the gem or crystal will let go of anything that is not beneficial to it or the owner. I have a belief that it does anyway but this extra knowing helps our intuition as well.
Imagine all that touching and love by touching each others stones. Touch also excites and activates the crystal – just as we need and enjoy the touch so the crystals and gems enjoy.
At times there are stones that you want to work with and keep for your own personal use – that is fine a good thing is to keep these away from where people can see and want to touch till you are ready to share. If you are wearing a pendant and do not want it touched wear it inside your clothes where it will not be seen – that is your personal tool. Most people touch a stone to comment how nice it is thereby giving appreciation and love.
We are all where we are meant to be so there is nothing wrong with not letting people touch your stones but please give some thought to the assistance and love that can be shared and therefore received.
An experiment for you to try is get two stones the same – over a period of time touch, hold, look at one and ignore the other. Note the difference because there will be one. As humans need touch to survive and to feel a part of human mankind the stones react to touch. Just as we close down without touch of some sort so do the stones. Touch stimulates the stone to release energy – the energy is love (positive input). When you touch you look and therefore bring the vibration of stone into your eyes on a soul level as well. The stone and you gain.
When you have finished the experiment give the ignored stone lots of attention i.e. love. Look at them, hold them, wash them - whatever you feel. Do what you would do to someone when you bring them in from ‘the cold’. |
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